Shutting up the Extremist in my Head

Debbie Hatch | Family & F.I.T.

It’s been a long week for me. A more accurate description is likely, “it’s been several long weeks rolling together, for me.” There’s been far, far too much travel and too much work for the past several weeks. A friend asked me how many days I’ve been on the road this year. So far: 183.

In fact, after a period of trying to work but being unable to think clearly, I sat down earlier, planning to get up and go to the gym in 20 minutes. I woke up 2 1/2 hours later. No gym time and a “wasted” afternoon 🙁 but clearly I needed the sleep.


What's up with breadsticks AND pizza?

What’s up with breadsticks AND pizza?

When this happens, I can get upset with myself, depressed, and start to think I’ve failed. It’s easy to say, “Well, to hell with it then. I didn’t work out. I might as well have an XL pizza with extra cheese, a side of bread sticks (what’s up with the bread sticks, anyway? Pizza IS bread) a large Coke, and a chocolate frosted brownie for dessert.

I mean….I’ve already “messed up”.
At this point, I might as well go all in for the weekend, and just start over on Monday, right?



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We are human.

This is life.
We have periods when we can accomplish everything we plan to and other periods where we don’t seem to accomplish much of anything.

Our energy ebbs and flows.

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Being an extremist is never good.
– The extreme belief of all or nothing.
– The extreme thoughts (always OR never).
– The extreme diets (1000 calories or 7k…no carbs, or mostly carbs and nothing else).
– The extreme exercise choices (working out for hours or not working out at all).







I know the term “moderation” is over-used today so we tend to tune it out but – that really is where it’s at. Overall Screen Shot 2015-10-16 at 9.26.47 PMconsistency.  Most of the time.  That’s what’s important.

Few things need to be all or nothing.
Few situations are always a certain way.
We may not be able to work out every day – – but we can set a goal to work out most (or even just “many”) of days.
We might not eat well at every meal, or every day – – but we can try to eat well most of the time.


Mindset Mostly * Nutrition * Movement


  1. All to often we tend to beat up on ourselves if we don’t do what is expected of ourselves by ourselves or from others. I have found if you just listen to what your body is telling you and honor it that it works out better. This is because you start to hold any negative feelings about yourself. If you feel tired, rest. Your body may be telling you that you need it in order to reboost.

  2. I agree that “it’s all or nothing” makes little sense. It’s easy to know it but harder to feel it. I planned to go to tap dance class today, but the person who drives me and takes the class with me canceled because of a backache (ouch!). So I am sitting in the house, wondering if I should just gobble down the cookies.
    Maybe not.
    Tomorrow, I will walk to church and it will be good.

    1. Yes, yes, yes!!!!!! I know how that goes, Alice. Don’t gobble down ALL the cookies 🙂

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